Relationship Advice - Sexual Responsibility Of Young

Our teens and preteens are set up to fail. They get a terrible education in the field of what they can expect in a relationship and sexual violence.

As a teenager, more than twenty years ago, I remember being moved by my emotions and hormones for any reason. I also remember receiving the confirmation of social and popular culture.

Unfortunately, pop culture still progressing stupid ideas about romance and sex.

The other night I started watching a few minutes of "The Secret Life of American Teen" and was in tears before I died. The first scene was a teenager to discover she is pregnant. The next scene was another daughter and her new boyfriend speaking in the lobby, he was pressuring her to have sex with him that night. She was sorry because he continued.

Although it repeatedly on television, having sex with someone just because they want is not reason enough.

Seeing this show, my heart is broken because many of my young friends in high school has also succumbed to the same unfounded the argument that "should" sleep with someone, because someone happened to be interested in them.

This topic is a hot button for me. We give girls and boys, the story that this is "as is", when in fact there is more sex and romance. It is not about morality. This is a question of well-being and self-respect.

Any parent of a tween can tell you that your options for clothes for the girls are racy. During this sensitive period, girls often feel awkward and especially their need for acceptance is through the roof. If the accepted standard of dress is revealing and become sexually active, we are creating a legacy of girls with low self-esteem, women who become confused and dissatisfied.

Our boys are doomed to fail, too. What should they do about their hormones are raging? If they are not trained to use their new power in empowering ways, many of those who walk the path of least resistance: through our revolving door girls in a socially sanctioned sex inappropriate.

So what do we do about it? How can we put our young people to win? The answers are enough to fill volumes, but we can make a fresh start here: We introduce and embody the idea that our bodies are temples, parks .* does that sex is enjoyable and natural, but n is not the beginning of a relationship. Instead, it may be the result of cultivated intimacy and a real commitment. Our girls are powerful beyond measure, and that power is not a commodity to be discarded or exchanged against the attention, affection or approval.

Our conversations with our children must go beyond the mechanics of sex and to develop the emotional, physical and spiritual responsibility that comes with this great act of capitulation.

Your task: to study the way to show their sexuality and how it can be a great example of our youth? Did you buy that bill of goods offered for film and television? If so, you need some health and healing as well? If so, you're not alone, and there are a lot of help is available to support you so that you can become an even greater treasure.