Online Dating: How To Respond To Men Who Winks At You Online

Recently one of my coaching clients started dating new online dating. It was received quite a few winks men and was not sure how to react. Is it close again or email?

All in all, my recommended strategy to meet men online dating sites is this - a mirror to their actions. In other words, if a man smite the eye, and you are interested, wink back. If he sends you a short e-mail, e-mail back a short e-mail. The best way to interact with people online dating sites is reflected for them what they are doing. This is what I mean when I say "mirror" them.

Beware of long, non-personalized e-mails

But if you get a very long email from a guy who tells you everything about themselves, reflect that. He probably cut and pasted this long diatribe, over and over again for many women. Sorry, do not feel flattered by a long, non-personal e-mail.

Be wary of e-mails of correspondents who never comes to your phone

With online dating, the point is to reach the first meeting as soon as possible. This is ideal to become relevant. Sometimes men want to send emails back and forth and talking on the phone. Be careful if this happens. It is not emotionally available, or possibly in a relationship - these are the most likely scenarios. Sending an e-mail could be a way to trick a couple without having to cheat.

In addition, you have no new correspondents. So many of my older than 40, dating after divorce coaching clients have experienced this situation. Advance and not get caught up in the sweet e-mails that are so sweet and sensitive. If after 2-4 emails, the man you were not asked to speak on the phone, ask him to do so. It is normal in this case to be taken. If he hedges, drop it immediately and move to find a man who might actually want to meet and date. Do not waste your time.

Beware the wounded who need your help to recover

I tell my coaching clients that date all the time. Please do not mix in the idea of ​​Florence Nightingale to help a wounded to heal. There will be a reward for good service. Most likely to be passed to another person because you are involved in a difficult time in his life. Instead, it has to start again so do not put in the shoes of white nurses. "

Beware the man who loves the phone but never met

Ideally, you will be emailed 2-4 times back and forth. Then a brief phone - for example, 20 minutes to set a date. Many of my coaching clients dating back to finish talking on the phone several times for hours. This situation is similar to pen pals. I had a male client who had a phone relationship for seven months and never met the woman. It was crazy in love with her, but she had plenty of excuses why they could not satisfy. His mother got sick, your work is necessary, money was scarce, etc.

My bet is that she was married / involved, much older / younger than she says or not at all like his image. Something was terribly wrong with this scenario and his heart was broken by his empty promises. Please do not let this happen to you.

Fantasy is not known ever to measure up to Real Man

Another problem with long conversations or read e-mails before the meeting is that you create an image of the person in your mind. And believe me - a man will never be what you think! Now that you have to go beyond the disappointment of how it does not measure to your imagination.

Leave a little mystery to the nature of man lever

Then email 2-4 times, talking on the phone for 20 minutes, then meet the man for not more than 90 minutes. The strategy is to leave him wanting more. When you leave a little mystery is, what makes a man want to know more, then he calls again. It is not manipulative - it is just human nature to exploit. Regardless of what will be used easily on a silver platter is not desirable in relation to something he has to work.

Online dating is a great way to meet people you never had the opportunity to meet otherwise. According to statistics, now 12% of marriages and 20% of relationships from web games. Try but be warned with the way to go!