Discerning A Heart Full Of Love

How many times have you had the experience of connecting with someone - a friend or potential partner - who turns out to be an indifferent? At first you think it's a really good person, and then down the line you discover that the person is egocentric, narcissistic, angry and uncaring. Wondering how you could be so wrong and what can you do differently next time?

I noticed in my 35 years of counseling that people seem to decide very early in their life, or do not want to care and compassion for others' feelings. As a result, several people have the desire to feel the emotions of others. Some of us feel deeply the pain and joy of others, when others do. Some people may remember the care of their pain and joy of a very young age, while other memories are mostly concerned about their feelings and needs.

Those who chose the deep layers of compassion are often those who are the guardians, while less people are the makers of compassion. The guards are people who have learned to take responsibility for others' feelings and well-being, while takers are people who expect others to take responsibility for their emotions and well- be, and often blame others when they do not assume this responsibility.

If you are a compassionate person can easily feel the feelings of others', you may find you attract people who are in pain. Your compassionate heart naturally wants to help those people who are in pain, not only for transmission, but also because their pain is so painful for you. The problem is that this person might not matter how much you care so much feelings for him or her.

So how do you become demanding that a loving heart, caring and compassionate? The first step is to focus on developing great compassion for your own feelings you have for others. Often very caring people themselves aside, caring for others more than they care about themselves. This leaves them vulnerable to the caretaker for someone who just wants someone to take care of them and then get angry when you do not do it "right." If you develop compassion for you, you begin to feel much faster when someone is not really worried about you. If you're just focused on the feelings of someone else, you will not feel what you feel, and it is your own emotions, which allows you to distinguish from a lack of health care.

The next step is to understand and accept that no matter how you treat others, has no control over how those who are with you. You can not force someone to heal, more attention to other's feelings and well-being regardless of their own, less care than the other will. The other person becomes a mirror of his lack of care of yourself.

The more you learn to take full, 100% responsibility for their feelings, the second a lack of care is unbearable for you. The more you can stay tuned in themselves and trust their own beliefs before you can detect a lack of caring for others. The more we accept the inability to make it to others to be of concern, the sooner you can let people who are determined to get treatment, but not very worried about him.

It really does not take long to recognize the loving heart, when you have compassion for yourself, trust your perceptions, and accept your lack of control over others. People betray their intention is to love or to get it, or give to everything they say and do. With practice, you can learn to discern the loving heart very early in a relationship. If you want to stop recreating the same situation over and over again, and then develop your power of discernment.